Stress has to constantly be reassessedThis is so important because the balance of stress can shift with time and for me the stress of not having a car has reached a point in which it is greater than having one. How did I get here? As much as we might personally believe stress is often something one has no control over; we can only react to it as best we can.
For me its family.
My grandparents live in a rural area and have gotten to the age where they need more support in order to maintain any level of independence or a good quality of life. They raised me for the most part and I am happy to go there as much as possible to keep them smiling and independent.
The problem is, they live in a transportation vortex, a black hole. It takes the better part of a day to get to their general area and someone still needs to pick me up as my last bus stop is well outside of walking distance. This isn't really good for my grandparents either, but they have lived in this community for their whole lives, and they are well outside the time frame now were a move makes sense. They are the last hold outs, the last ones who haven't moved to more populace areas in my family.
Up until now my partner has let me use her car, a privilege I try to use as sparingly as possible. At the same time in spite of my best efforts usage keeps going up and I feel bad about needing to use her car on her days off which leaves her without something she works hard to have.
So, accepting my situation I bought a car over the weekend and am going through the process of putting it on the road now. For the first time in just about exactly 10 years I am purchasing car insurance. Its a weird feeling.